What I Have Been Learning

Okay, a few weeks ago, I posted that I was in the hospital, being treated for a wound on my right leg, that had become infected. As I had not been in the hospital since 2006, it was a shock to my system to find myself in the back of an ambulance, being whisked away to the land of needles and nurses.

I spent 13 days in that hospital, had surgery to clean out the wound and had a couple xrays as well. Physical and Occupational Therapy people put me through my paces but the most remarkable of all the services was the use of the Wound Vac. The purpose of the wound vac (as it was explained to me) was to aid the wound in healing quicker.

The afternoon of the 13th day, I was transported, by ambulance once again, to a rehab center. Technically I was on the mend but not mended enough to nor require around the clock care. I would be able to receive all the care I had in the hospital except for surgery.

Today is my 12th day at the rehab center and I have to say, that in addition to making some friends, sleeping and eating, I have had loads of time to think. I have been thinking, lately, of what I have been learning from the experience.

 About others: People may take a job because they need the money, and there is no shame in that because we can all use money. However, it is evident that this can create resentment in the heart of the employee which can then be taken out on those form whom they do their job.

About Others: People may take a job because it is a stepping stone to something greater and grander. They can be curious about everything because they love soaking  up knowledge. They can also sleep walk through their shift because they can become jaded to the work, since the work is not the job they will have in the end.

 About Others: People may take a job because they believe they are a perfect fit for the responsibilities. They strive to make the most of the experience because they love seeing others feel as good as they do while sharing the moment.

About Myself: I have had to learn to practice what I preach to the nth degree. To hold my tongue when I would rather lash out and to speak up when I would rather dismiss something with a wave of my hand.

 About Myself: I have had to remember that there are ways of getting one’s point across without blame. To not only say something to the people who have the power to make the “issue” go away, but to offer a potential solution. Of course, the next step is to let go of the need to know how it will be resolved.

About Myself: I have had to accept that it is okay to let my emotions show when I am afraid. And that being afraid is okay. What is amazing is. feeling the fear and doing it anyway (sometimes I have had NO choice in the matter).

I have tried to be an active participant by not only doing what I am told (for the most part) taking the medications, doing my therapy exercises and answering and asking a myriad of questions.

I have tried to present an energy of tolerance and acceptance, especially when those around me are so caught up in their own pain that they have lost their religion.

I have made it a point to learn the names of everyone with whom I come in contact, their roles in my wellness journey and to show I am interested in them as people. Why? Because people care more about you when they know you care and that makes the situations such as eluded to in the previous paragraph a bit easier to handle.

I smile, make jokes, sing at the top of my lungs and speak gratitude to and with everyone from the janitorial staff, the nurses, aides and doctors, the kitchen staff (important to make friends with the ones who make your food) and administration. Sure, I get looks, groans and watch people as they walk away with their heads shaking but I also get smiles, hugs and hear laughter ringing throughout the halls as people go about their business.

As I have been rather a recluse for over a year, I very much resented having to be at the mercy of the folks who were necessary to every thing I needed to do from eating to bathing to toileting. Yet, I knew that I could either suck it up and be a “team player” or fight them every step of the way, on general principles. The biggest general principle I wrapped my head around, was to treat others as I wish to be treated.

side note…  I have to say, that sometimes it has not changed the situation, it only changed me, which changed my perception of my situation. Guess we are never too old to learn, eh?

In a place where some people come with hope of leaving one day, some come with no hope of leaving alive and others know they are here temporarily, there can be no predicting moods or motives. Since one cannot control the participants, one can only create one’s own personal atmosphere. It isn’t about “grin and bear it” it is all about “be at peace and share it”!

p.s. I do have a lovely window here, through which I can watch critters frolic, the sun rise and set and stay connected to Mother Nature. I am truly blessed.

AND thank you for all the love and support, I feel ya and send it back from the bottom of my heart!

56 responses to “What I Have Been Learning

  1. Yes, we can learn new daily, just we are open to it, Annette.
    Wish you all the best and hope, that you can be healed and get home soon.

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  2. Good to hear you’re on the mend, as well as the meds, Annette 🤗❤️🤗

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  3. Wishing you well – and soon… ♥

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  4. What important reflections! I’m so very sorry all of this happened to you, but you have made the most of it to learn. It has been a Buddha for you, I think. Wishing healing, strength, and peace as you recover.

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  5. Glad you are on the mend!! And the lessons learned are beneficial in the long term too. Hang in there!

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  6. Oh my, what a fabulous read, thank you, Annette! Love the saying, “be at peace and share it” Your sense of wonder and gratitude certainly shine through. Blessings and love and continued healing to you! *smiling heart**children singing**willoww in mist* And I’m glad you have that magic window, too!!

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  7. Thank you for sharing things insights, they are very inspiring. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Bright blessings

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  8. Great insight, Annette. My prayers are for a full and healthy recovery.

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  9. sorry to hear about your injury, and wish you the best in your journey to recovery! I am glad you had time to do some introspection and share it with us!

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  10. Annette, I am glad to hear that your healing progresses well. And although we experience it over and over again when going through difficult times in our lives, it amazes me that we find the deepest insights and solutions right then. Thank you for sharing yours here, dear friend. And I am sending you loving thoughts for an even faster healing 💖

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  11. “Be at peace and share it”

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  12. Wishing you a speedy recovery, dear Annette… ❤ Blessings and love! xo

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  13. Annette, you are a hero. You walk your talk, it’s what I respect most about you. I’m glad you’re on the mend and I’m glad you are wise enough to understand you need this staff, including the sleepwalkers. Living among people in pain and facing mortality is sometimes a test of faith. Get well and stay wise. 🙂

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  14. We are never to old to learn and there is no shame in being afraid, being human is part of the journey. I hope you are in the comforts of home soon 🤗

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  15. Sounds like a lot of Haiku material Annette, have your creative urges stayed running in hospital?

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  16. I’m glad to hear you’re improving, and also pleased you’re managing to stay positive and see the blessings around you, even while in a place you wish you weren’t, dealing with situations you’d rather not be in. I hope you continue to embrace the lessons while you heal, both for your own sake, and because your positive atitude may help those you come in to contact with in the meantime… Even if only some of the people. Get well soon.

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  17. Annette! I had no idea this was happening in your life! I must have missed the post(s) when you shared about the infection in your leg. Thank you so much for sharing this and everything that you have learned through the process. I’m happy to hear that you are practicing all of the things you profess – that can be SO hard when going through difficult times (which I’m sure this has been)! I’m sending you so much love, my prayers, and good vibes! ❤

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  18. So happy to hear you’re out of the hospital and in rehab on your way toward heading home soon!! Time in a hospital will surely give you the time and motivation to spend thinking about life and many other things! Not good for sleeping when they come in and wake you so many times each night!
    Wishing you health, healing and happiness, My Dear!
    xoxo

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  19. There are times when we ‘have to’, yet come out of it with a new perspective on others and ourselves. That is wonderful, Annette. I hope you are on the mend.

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  20. Praying for healing–complete and quick!

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  21. Cheering you on, Annette! I can appreciate what you’re going through. After my spinal cord injury, I spent 9 months in the hospital/rehab centre. It changes one’s perspective for sure. You got this. Stay awesome! 🙂

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  22. Annette, there’s so much in this. I find myself wondering if you will write a book about it. The different motivations of the staff and the perspectives of the patients really hit me. Hope you are doing well, and thanks for such an open look at the issues of illness and recovery. Hugs, 🙂

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    • Thank you, Donna. You know, I have thought about a book. I wrote this because I was needing to ponder the fact that not everyone who serves the ill or disabled, is there to serve in the best interest of the patient. Oh, perhaps they were when they first started their journey but at one point a switch flipped and it became a job. A job they now resent. In order to by pass my own frustration and disappointment, I decided to see things through their eyes. It helps..

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  23. You are extremely wise… or you have found wisdom. It doesn’t matter which. I should keep this for when I’m in that situation. Treat people as you wish to be treated is a brilliant maxim.
    Go girl.
    And get well soon.

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  24. Annette,I dealt with this in 2013 when Rich was hospitalized 7 times in 5 months, before they diagnosed him with Lyme disease of the central nervous system. Since then, it seems like it’s getting worse. I stayed with him, which we can do at no cost in Pennsylvania, and I heard nurses laughing at patients who were out of their minds, deliberately ignoring patients so they could finish showing pictures to their co-workers and other things I wish I couldn’t remember. I think this lack of concern is widespread throughout the economy, but it is particularly hard to handle within the healthcare system. You can’t make other people care enough to do a good job. We can find ways to understand and go with the flow, but when harm comes from this sort of behavior, it’s real and we have to deal with the consequences.

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  25. Reblogged this on ckbooksblog and commented:
    Annette has an interesting view on her world (and situation).

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  26. Disregard my last. I can read it now. Wishing the best for you!

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